Daddy and Mummy have been getting tonnes of advice, encouragement, sympathy and empathy on Nadine's cries. There were also warning about the non-hunger, non-dirty-diaper, non-colic, non-sleepy, non-overtired, non-overstimulation, non-boredom, non-anything cry that will go on and on, and with which nothing will help. We think we've had a first taste of that cry last night.Nadine was inconsolable. No amount or different styles of carrying, rocking, ssshhing or singing would stop her cries. Oh, actually 1 thing did - Mummy's booby. She suckled like she's not eaten for 3 days. So Mummy thought - "ah ha! she's hungry! thank god we found the cause!" But the moment she's taken off the boob (after what seemed like a satisfying feed), the crying started again. On and on. She just needed to top up her fuel to continue crying. :-(
This is discouraging, especially since we thought we've been making progress. Early this week, we decided to modify the letting her cry it out way. We'd let her cry for a few minutes, go pick her up and soothe her, then put her back in bed. We did that for as many times as it required for her to finally calm down and go to sleep. By Wednesday, Nadine was down to 2 pick-ups and a total crying time of 10 min. And then this happened!
No wonder people say these babies never give you a break. The moment you think you've got them figured out, they'll whip out another trick to stun you. How can they be so clever with those tiny brains??!!
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ya.. they will never give us a break. till now!! At first Zia was sleeping through the night from 2 mths onwards and he doesn't need any rocking and carrying and patting...... just put him down then he'll sleep right.. then when he was 5 mths old, he started crying, waking up alot of times, etc. since then, i have to carry him for a while and pat him to sleep and now he'll wake up at least once in the middle of the night. Whatever I've read frm the book can really throw away. It just doesn't work for all babies. haha..
eh..... I think Nadine just wants to suckle to sleep. she just wants to be soothed. that's why parents give dummies. I didn't give so have to ride it out a few days.. then they will learn to self soothe.
Miin
I tend to THINK that babies this age are not "scheming" to make life miserable for us parents...although it is tempting to think that when there doesn't seem to be a reason that they are crying.
My BRAIN tells my EMOTIONS that it is more a reaction to thier needs. In that way, I don't get so upset and become more sympathetic. Yikes... I do Cognitive Behavioural Therapy on myself!
Lydia, u're so funny! Ya, all the books I've read did say babies this young do not know how to "scheme" or "manipulate" their parents. They're just at the stage where their bodies and brains r growing at different speed, cannot coordinate properly and also, they have too much growing and processing to do. Therefore the crying. I just have to learn to be more patient!
Li Miin, Nadine will not take the dummy! I've tried giving to her a few times, and she'd spit it out each time, without fail. And I'm not abt to become her pacifier!
Anyway, the good news is that she became more "normal" last nite. Needed just a couple of pick ups and soothing b4 she went into lalaland. Crossing my fingers, toes and eyes!
oh oki. that's cool then. when all else fails just pray. it usually works. n wow.. I really think that Lydia is a very patient mum. gota learn that. sometimes i get quite fed up that i'll end up scolding Zia, leaving him alone cryin in the cot, etc. I'm learning...
I agree! Lydia is definitely the most patient mum among all my friends. I am definitely not so rational, esp when Nadine wails! There were a couple of times I wanted to throw her against the wall! Split second thought la. But immediately after that thought enter my mind, I would be like, 'oh die, am i having post-natal depression??!!' then i'd try and switch mode to be more patient and calm. Come to think of it, quite funny! But yes, I'm learning too!
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